January 1st 2009

To Him
There are always two sides to a story. "To Him" offers a female's point of view.

How much benefit is involved in Friends with Benefits?
by J-DOT

With a decrease in long lasting relationships and an increase in divorce, more and more people are playing the field and finding other ways to have sex with no strings attached. Thus, te less commitment the better. But are there any risks in such dealings? If so, what are they? What role do women play in this game?

Stereotypically, women are believed to be more emotional beings than men. It is assumed that as women, we reject the idea of being a part of any relationship solely based on friends with benefits. Over the years, women have become more independent and open-minded than in past years. Women are now in positions where they own companies ans surpass their male counterparts. Not only are some women accepting the view of life with no children, but some have become just as comfortable with not being emotionally attached to a male. Just like men, we see the advantages of having non-committal sex.

Therefore, if someone simply says that women always bring emotional baggage into a friends with benefits "understanding," then they clearly have yet to address the real issue. The problem isn't that women are "too emotional" or constantly "desire commitment", but that the parties involved (be it male or female) haven't considered possible consequences of having a friend with benefits. Most of the time, people only focus on instant gratification and the ease of disconnect involved. They only consider the pros and never evaluate the cons.

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To Her
"To Her" offers a male's point of view.

by CARIB

I hope each and everyone have a blessed New Year.  As Soca music reaches another plateau so does our relationship with our Friends.  How many of us have a friend or a network of people that you call friends.  The word Friend is a tricky word in itself that most people misuse and do not understand the true meaning and depth of it.  Ok, as you read this look to your left and to your right.  Do you see anybody there?? 

Now when u incorporate Benefits with friendship or friends with benefits, everybody have one or multiple people that they can rattle off their names quickly.  My question to all is this, if you are in a relationship with a man or woman is it ok to have a friend on the side that you can call up at any time when things are not going well in the bedroom?  Is it ok to have casual sex with a friend because the attraction is so great it makes the intimacy out of this world?   So my island people please tell me what u think about friends with benefits.  Is it a good thing or not?  Also please remember friends with benefits does not have to be all sexual, it can be financial as well.   Voice your opinion.